Embracing Maturity: Knowing What to Keep Private

What does Maturity mean?

I can deliver the definition, and I can also give the noun and adjective, but let’s emphasize its significance.
For me, it is essential to discern what is appropriate to share and when. Discussions of a sexual nature are not suitable when the conversation pertains to an entirely different topic. It is through doing shadow work that I am learning to discern the important differences in our conversations.

I understand that sex talk is a natural part of life. Still, it is not appropriate for dinner discussions at the table. This is similar to topics related to bodily functions. Of course, there are exceptions, especially if you are in the medical field surrounded by professionals who understand the context. I use sex as an example. Many other sensitive topics can evoke strong feelings. These do not suit everyone.

I want to say that I don’t judge anyone’s experiences. This reflects my personal journey. What seems normal for one person can be very different for another. I deeply respect the unique paths we each follow. I am working on changing how I approach certain things. My biggest challenge has been learning to take pride in parts of my life. These parts don’t need to be shared openly. It’s important to be careful about who we trust with our thoughts.

For example, when talking about adorable animals, it’s best to leave out personal stories. Ask yourself with passion: Is this really worth sharing with everyone? Or is it a special thing to keep in your journal? Figuring out these moments can feel scary at first. But the more you do it, the easier it gets. Over time, this becomes a strong skill and a new way of understanding yourself.

I understand, it’s truly challenging to differentiate between what is appropriate to share and what is not. It can feel overwhelming, but hold on tight—your journey will improve. Moments of failure will arise, and that’s perfectly okay; they are just stepping stones on the growth path. Embrace each experience, for they will shape you into a stronger version of yourself.